Nzira yekuziva nhema dzemutengesi paunenge uchitenga motokari

Kana tikafunga kuti munhuwo zvake anonyepa katatu mumaminitsi gumi ekukurukurirana, zvino zvinotyisa kufungidzira kuti kangani panguva ino mutengesi wemotokari kana mupurisa wemotokari anosarudza kukubiridzira mubhadharo achareva nhema kwauri. Uye nenzira, iwe unogona kuziva nhema nemaitiro emunhu.

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Kutaurirana kwedu kwese kwevanhu kwakakamurwa mune zvekutaura uye zvisiri zvekutaura. Mutauriro ndiwo chirevo chemashoko, zvinoreva hurukuro. Kusataura kunosanganisira maitiro emuviri, nzira yekutaura - mamiriro, masaini, chimiro chechiso, kutarisa, maitiro ezwi (inzwi rekutaura, kumhanya kwekutaura, matauriro, kumbomira) uye kunyange kufema. Mukuita kwekudyidzana kwevanhu, kusvika ku80% yekukurukurirana kunoitwa nenzira dzisiri dzekutaura dzekutaura - gestures, uye chete 20-40% yeruzivo runoparidzirwa uchishandisa mazwi - mazwi. Nokudaro, kana aziva unyanzvi hwekududzira mutauro wemuviri, munhu achakwanisa kuverenga "pakati pemitsara", "kutarisa" ruzivo rwese rwakavanzika rwe interlocutor. Chikonzero ndechekuti iyo subconscious inoshanda yega yakazvimirira pamunhu, uye mutauro wemuviri unoupa kure. Nokudaro, nerubatsiro rwemutauro wemuviri, munhu haagoni kungoverenga pfungwa dzevanhu nemaitiro avo, asiwo kudzora mamiriro ezvinhu pasi pemamiriro ekumanikidzwa kwepfungwa. Ehe, kuti ugone kutaurirana kusiri kwekutaura, ruzivo rwakakomba munharaunda iyi yepsychology inodiwa, pamwe nehumwe hunyanzvi mukushandisa kwayo kunoshanda. Muzviitiko zvakawanda, mutengesi, uyo ane chinangwa chekutengesa motokari nenzira dzose, anogadzirira nharo dzake mberi uye anovaka nzira yekudzvinyirira mupfungwa. Kazhinji kazhinji, izvi zvinoshandisa nhema dzakanyatsofungwa dzinonzwika kuva dzinopwisa uye dzinotsinhirana. Mumwe maneja wekutengesa ane ruzivo anonyepa nehunyanzvi, uye kunyengedza kwemutengesi wega kuri nyore kuziva, asi chero zvakadaro, vanhu vanonyepa vanobatanidzwa nehuwandu hwemitemo yakawanda.

TERRITORY

Chokutanga pane zvose, mukukurukurirana chero kupi zvako zvakakosha kuti ushandise kushandisa zonal nzvimbo ye interlocutor. Kune 4 nzvimbo dzakadaro: yepedyo - kubva 15 kusvika 46 cm, pachedu - kubva 46 kusvika 1,2 mamita, social - kubva 1,2 kusvika 3,6 mamita uye voruzhinji - kupfuura 3,6 mamita. Paunenge uchitaurirana nemutengesi wemotokari kana mupurisa wemotokari, zvinokurudzirwa kutarisa nzvimbo yemagariro, i.e. chengetedza kubva kune interlocutor pane imwe inter-status chinhambwe che 1 kusvika 2 metres.

 

MAZISO

Nyatsoteerera maitiro emeso e interlocutor - chimiro chekukurukurirana chinoenderana nenguva yekutarisa kwake uye kwenguva yakareba sei yaanogona kumira kutarisa kwako. Kana munhu asina kutendeseka newe kana kuvanza chimwe chinhu, maziso ake anosangana neako zvishoma kudarika 1/3 yenguva yose yekukurukurirana. Kuti uvake hukama hwakanaka hwekuvimba, kutarisa kwako kunofanirwa kusangana nekutarisa kwake nezve 60-70% yenguva yekutaurirana. Kune rumwe rutivi, iwe unofanirwa kunyeverwa kana interlocutor, ari "nyanzvi murevi wenhema", anotarisa zvakananga uye asingafambi mumaziso ako kwenguva yakareba. Izvi zvinogona kureva kuti "akadzima" uropi uye anotaura "otomatiki" nekuti akaziva nyaya yake nemusoro. Anogonawo kufungidzirwa kuti anonyepa kana, achitaura chimwe chinhu, akadzora maziso ake kuruboshwe rwako. 

 

PALM

Nzira yakanakisa yekuona kuti mutauriri akavimbika uye akatendeseka sei panguva ino ndeyekutarisa nzvimbo yezvanza zvake. Kana mwana ari kureva nhema kana kuvanza chimwe chinhu, asingadi kuvanza zvanza zvake kumashure kwake. Ichi chiito chekusaziva chinoratidzawo vanhu vakuru panguva iyo pavanoreva nhema. Pane zvakasiyana, kana munhu akazarura zvanza zvake zvizere kana chikamu kune interlocutor, iye akasununguka. Zvinokosha kuziva kuti vanhu vakawanda vanokuwana kwakaoma zvikuru kureva nhema kana zvanza zvavo zvakavhurika.  

RUOKO RHUSO NEZVISO

Kazhinji kacho, kana mwana ane makore mashanu achireva nhema kuvabereki vake, pakarepo mushure mezvo anovhara muromo wake nemaoko maviri kana maviri. Mukukura, chiito ichi chinowedzera kunatswa. Kana munhu mukuru akanyepa, uropi hwake hunomutumira simba rekuvhara muromo wake, mukuedza kunonotsa mashoko ekunyengera, sezvinoita mwana ane makore mashanu kana pwere, asi panguva yekupedzisira ruoko runonzvenga muromo uye mamwe. kumwe kuita kunozvarwa. Kazhinji kazhinji, iyi inobata ruoko kune chiso - mhino, dimple pasi pemhino, chirebvu; kana kukwesha ziso, nzeve, mutsipa, kudzosa kora, nezvimwe. Mafambiro ese aya anonyatsovanza hunyengeri uye anomiririra yakavandudzwa "yemunhu mukuru" shanduro yekuvhara muromo neruoko, yaivepo muhudiki.

 

ZVINHU ZVAKAWANZWA

Muchidzidzo chekurukurirano isiri yekutaura, nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzakaona kuti kunyepa kunowanzokonzera manzwiro ekunzwa munyama dzakatetepa dzechiso nemutsipa, uye munhu anoshandisa kukwenya kuti atonhodze. Vamwe vanhu vanoedza kunyepera kukosora kuti vavhare zvese izvi gestures. Kazhinji vanogona kuperekedzwa nenyemwerero yekumanikidzira kuburikidza nemazino akaruma. Zvakakosha kuziva kuti nezera, maitiro ose evanhu anova asina kupenya uye akafukidzwa, saka nguva dzose zvakaoma kuverenga ruzivo rwemunhu ane makore makumi mashanu kupfuura wechidiki.

 

ZVAKAWANDA ZVIRATIDZO ZVEKUNYEPA

Sezvo mutemo, chero munhu anonyepa anowanzoita zvega, kunze kwenzvimbo, kunyura mune zvakadzama. Asati apindura mubvunzo, anowanzoudzokorora zvinonzwika, uye paanenge achitaura manzwiro ake, anoshandisa chikamu chechiso chake chete. Semuenzaniso, munhu akadaro anonyemwerera chete nemuromo wake, uye mhasuru dzematama, maziso nemhino zvinoramba zvisingafambi. Munguva yekukurukurirana, mutauriri, kana iwe wakagara patafura, angasaziva asingazivi zvimwe zvinhu pakati pako: vase, mug, bhuku, kuedza kugadzira izvo zvinonzi "chidziviriro chinodzivirira". Kazhinji munyengeri ane verbose uye anowedzera zvisina basa kunyaya. Panguva imwe cheteyo, kutaura kwakavhiringidzika uye kusarurama kwegirama, mitsara haina kukwana. Kumbomira kupi zvako mukukurukurirana nemunhu anonyepa kunoita kuti asanzwe zvakanaka. Kazhinji, vanyengeri vanotanga kutaura zvishoma nezvishoma kupfuura kutaura kwavo kwenguva dzose.

Nguva dzose yeuka: kunyange munyengeri ane ruzivo rwakanyanya haakwanisi kudzora zvachose subconscious yake.